Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Stay at home mom schedule 2.0

With the children in school part time, thought it would be nice to note down how the day goes. This reflects a generally good day – a day with lesser tantrums, no colds or sick days, no absenteeism from household help, lesser office work/calls at home for P and likewise. It is light years away from perfect, in terms of how my time is spent and media time for kids. I could be more productive.

7:00 The adults are trying to get up. Till few months back, S was waking up at 6:30 and getting us in the grove in the morning. After starting school, he seems quite tired and sleeps till atleast ½ an hour after we are up.

7:45 Kids are up, P brushes and gets them going. Myself, in the kitchen boiling milk/water, preparing the coffee for us and horlicks for kids.

8:30 Really awake after the caffeine rush and children active after drinking their milk. They are running around or playing or watching their songs. I pack P’s lunch and kids’ snacks for school. If am lucky, my shower gets done by this time.

9:00 Kids and P are bathed and dressed. Depending when P starts work, either he or I get them bathed. We sort of take turns to give me a break. I set out breakfast by this time. Elaborate cooking does not happen in rush hour. Only the sorts of making idli or dosas or toasting or putting oatmeal together. The sides/curries/chutneys or things like upma are prepared the previous night, just heated up in the morning.

9:30 Kids eat or are fed, we get done with breakfast. P leaves by 8:45 or 9:30 based on whether morning calls happen or he drops S. K leaves by van for school at 9:35. S is dropped off or walked to school by me.

10:00 Am back home after his school drop, street vendor purchases for the day like fruits or greens or basic veggies for the day are done.

11:00 I have showered for sure. Kitchen is cleared after breakfast, dishes put away and house prepped for cleaning like moving furniture, dusting door mats and corners. Cleaning maid comes in for sweeping, mopping the floors and doing dishes. Meantime I fix odds and ends in the kitchen like sorting the greens, peeling and shelling stuff, grating coconut or soaking grains. Scrub the bathrooms, pick up toys, sort things- anything! The list is endless. Laundry gets started.

11:45 I leave for school to pick up S. Enjoy my 10 min walk in solitude. Sometimes I get a cup of my favorite coffee and drink it in peace at our super market.

12:15 We are back, and S washes hands, legs and uses the bathroom. I either give him a snack or lunch depending on how hungry he is. He mostly watches TV or plays play dough or rides his cycle around the house till nap. He is bored without his akka.

1:15 Long lunch #1 is done and he is ready for nap. I dry the laundry and try to complete my lunch.

1:45 Time for K to get home, she gets dropped off the van – I watch from the balcony and receive her at home. She washes etc, talks about any major happening at school and gets ready for lunch. Set out container for milk lady.

2:45 Long lunch #2 is done. Sometimes its almost 3pm.

3:15 K gets ready for nap, after some TV or youtube time. Sometimes I go for a 20-30 min nap and then spend the quiet time browsing or completing kitchen tasks – in preparation for dinner and clean up after lunch. If all gets done, I watch an episode of House on TV. I get the dried clothes.

4:15 S is up from nap and eats something, based on whether his lunch was done. If he had a good snack before nap, he would eat a late lunch. He demands the ipad and plays some games on that. Twice a week, K goes for dance class. S and I drop her, wait around and pick her up. No naps for K on those days.

5:30 K is up from sleep and ready to go upstairs for her drawing session/play date with her friend. I get the evening milk and tea going.

7:00 S finishes his evening milk, does some coloring or reading a book with me. By this time the cook has come and gone. Dinner is ready. Dry laundry has been folded. K is back and most days P is back. Yeah! K has her milk and we are done with some tea/coffee.

9:00 From when P gets home, I run any little errands for myself or go out for groceries or catch ½ hour of TV time to unwind. Twice a week, the music teacher comes home. So I sit with K through the session. P usually engages the kids during this time in some activity or takes them down to play in car park area. K completes homework if any. When P has calls at this time, I just hang around with the kids or they watch an episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse or we try to read some books. Then, we get the kids fed. Dinner is usually done.  

10:00 Children are in bed after some general chatting, playing indoors or simply fighting with each other. We are bone tired and glad they decided to sleep. If something good plays on TV, we watch or just catch up on emails, phone calls etc. Kitchen is cleared after dinner.

11:00 We get to sleep, after discussing any matters of the household and a small prayer.

As much as I like to be on an early schedule, reality is otherwise. But this late schedule, works for the time being. One challenge is the extremely long meal times of children. They just cant seem to eat fast. I will give up on that worry – either if they eat faster as they get bigger or I just throw in the towel on that expectation. Another, is the need to take S to the bathroom almost every ½ hour. Couple months back, any free minute during the day was spent wiping pee off the floor, and disinfecting the floors and our hands. These days are better. Thank God he can sleep in his diapers, what would I do otherwise. Eventually I’ll have to let go this as well, scary!! We’ll cross that bridge when we get there.

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